Once again – but not for the last time – Merry Christmas to you and your loved ones!
Now then, how about a Christmas present to yourself? I’m not talking about a better body, although that’s a nice thought for most people (don’t lie to me, especially at Christmastime, OK?). No, I’m talking about a better self-acceptance.
Mind you, we’re not talking self-esteem, here, but self-acceptance, which is a horse of a different wheelbase. We’re talking about being happy about yourself, accepting yourself, without denying those things you know you need to change. As the inestimable Scott Sonnon says, “You’re wonderful the way you are, and there’s much room for improvement.”
So let’s look at self-acceptance, self-denial (horrors!) and self-sabotage, shall we?
SELF-SABOTAGE AS A WAY OF LIFE
How long have you been trying to love your body? Been awhile now, hasn’t it? You know how to lose weight –eat healthy and exercise–so why are you still living in a body that you’re disappointed with? In my experience, people hold on to “unwanted” pounds for very specific reasons.
These reasons are on a subconscious level, which is where things get sticky.
Simply put, self-sabotage is your subconscious mind’s way of protecting you.
Seems counterproductive, but it makes sense when you realize that it is a defense mechanism meant to keep things from changing.
Your conscious mind says it wants to get fit to look and feel amazing, but your subconscious mind is pulling the strings behind the scenes, keeping your goals just out of reach.
As long as your subconscious mind thinks that you are safer being out-of-shape then you’ll be stuck.
Your most valiant efforts will be undermined by self-sabotage every single time.
But don’t give up, especially with the traditional start that we all like to make at New Years.
There’s a way to turn everything around, and it all starts with finding out the reason that your subconscious mind equates being out-of-shape with being safe.
Now I hope I don’t insult you by saying this, but I’m wondering if you are too gullible – that is, are you believing a lie that you, or somebody else, or Satan, is telling you? Let’s look at the lies you might believe and then look at replacing those lies with the truth.
Once you turn the light of truth on to that lie then it will no longer have any power over you.
Here are just five of the lies people believe – but search yourself for your own lies. If you get stumped, ask God, “Father, what lies am I believing right now?” As the Author of truth He’ll be happy to assist you, for sure – as long as you are willing to stop living a lie.
So, lets dig around for your lies, shall we?
1. Do you believe… You don’t deserve it?
Has someone in your life made you believe that you aren’t worthy of success? Or that they wouldn’t accept you if you were more successful than they are?
2. Do you believe… Change is bad?
It’s common to fear the unknown, but this could very well be the reason that you’re not reaching your goal. Being comfortable with where you are today could be the reason that you sabotage your efforts to improve your life through change.
3. Do you believe…Success will bring loss?
If you met your weight loss goal, would it bring out resentment and jealousy in your friends and family? Are you supposed to be the ‘screw-up’?
4. Do you believe…You’re not capable?
Are you unable to imagine yourself at your goal weight? As a truly fit person? Does the possibility of achieving your goal not seem real?
Spend time diving into your own mind to discover why it is that you aren’t meeting your goals. Once your whole mind is primed for success, then nothing will be able to stop you.
5. Do you believe…You’re not worth changing?
As we Christians (which I know not all of you Gentle Readers are) celebrate the birth of Jesus we often think of the most beloved verse in the Bible: For God so loved the world (that’s you!) that He gave His only Son. And this, Dear Friends, was the first and best Christmas gift of all time. If you’d like to discuss this gift feel free to call – my number is in the column to the right!
In God’s eyes you are worth the gift of His Son, in your own eyes can you be anything less than worthy?
In the meantime, stop the lying, would you?
And again, Merry Christmas!